Time for a lil’ gurl to gurl chat!
In this series, I want to offer my advice and such about our girly issues and struggles – so hopefully it may help my fellow sisters out there, cos let’s be honest – we’re all a little confused.
Today’s post is on one of our true friends. Most consistent too. She may be late, or early if you’re really lucky – but she will ALWAYS find a way to reach you. We’re talking shark week, the Red Sea, the curse given to us because Eve ate the forbidden fruit – you can call it what you like, but it’s all the same either way- PERIOD.
I remember my first period being a plentiful of tears and long naps, as I’m sure it has been for many, and I kept Googling for advice on dealing with it. The Nellé five years ago, who thought she had one leg shorter than the other simply cos she couldn’t walk properly with a pad on, would’ve been BLESSED to have this post. I’m also writing this whilst I’m ‘on’, so you already know I’m going to keep it 100.
Here are my 5 TIPS FOR GIRLS THAT HAVE JUST ‘STARTED’ –
1. DON’T BE AFRAID
I know that this may sound ironic, I mean – that switch from urine to straight blood is alarming, but please don’t be scared. I remember being PETRIFIED of going to the toilet, at one point even having to ask my mum to stand outside the bathroom for moral support, because the feeling freaked me out – it was so alien. If you’re scared of going to the toilet too, all I can say to reassure you is that if you don’t go to toilet yourself, it will just come out. It’s morbid, I know – but since you already have NO control over your period, it’s far better to go to the toilet and do what you need to do and prevent an embarrassing accident. I also find that with my cramps, if I visit the bathroom, I feel much better afterwards – it’s like a sort of release.
Also, a BIG one that I want to bring up is that your bleeding is unlikely going to be that ‘tablespoon of blood’ that they told you at school – and if it is, count yourself as VERY lucky! Mine certainly isn’t. I bleed heavily, but of course every girl’s period is unique to them. I’ll speak more on this in a later point, but keep this in mind when hearing of other girls’ experiences.
2. KEEP YOUR HYGIENE IN CHECK
It really goes without saying, but you NEED to stay clean – and even more so when you’re on your period. I remember being really scared of showering too, in case some blood came out, but it’s completely normal if it does – so you have nothing to worry about. People find that baths relieve their cramps too, so go and run that bath girl! RELAX 🧖🏽♀️ Also, make sure you’re changing pads or tampons regularly, particularly when they have been worn for a few hours and begin to become full.
3. A BIT OF EXTRA HELP IS OKAY
Periods can be really draining, emotionally and physically, as well as painful – therefore it’s important that you’re doing everything in your best interests to feel somewhat ‘normal’. I’m the stubborn sort when it comes to being ill. I hate taking medication with a passion (my doctor is triggered) and so I am very unlikely to take supplements to help me feel better – whether they be forms of pain-relief or vitamins. Please don’t be like me – do better, and if you’re feeling a bit crap don’t hesitate to take an appropriate amount of medication and such. Your life must go on, period or not, so don’t let your symptoms control you – control them.
4. KNOW YOUR LIMITS
Continuing on from my last point, sometimes periods can spiral a little out of your capabilities and become difficult to manage, so it’s important that you do not overwork yourself when your body is already going through it all and back. Luckily, my PE days are far behind me, but I remember being on my period and feeling sick and weak – yet forcing myself to take part in strenuous activities. FORGET THAT. If you feel crappy, you feel crappy – la fini. Stop feeling bad just because you want a little break girl! Know your limits, and don’t do anything that you feel uncomfortable doing whilst you’re on YOUR period. Nobody gives a sugar about what your PE teacher thinks
but just let them know that you simply don’t feel like carting up and down the gym like a donkey.
5. KEEP A CALENDER
Lastly, keeping track of your periods is SO important, and can really prevent those unexpected ‘oopsies’ that none of us particulary enjoy. You can just work out 28 days from when you first started your period each time, but I find that it’s easy to make mistakes or simply forget to always log my monthly cycles. Instead, I use the Eve app which works all that out for me, and also contains a daily-log to update your symptoms, and forums with helpful advice to help us all get through these stressful and sometimes confusing times!
If you still find the whole concept daunting, just know that it’ll eventually become a part of your life – and for the most part, it will get easier. I hope this post makes life just a little bit easier for you, and if you need any advice – I’m always here!
Until the next post, stay beautiful, keep safe x
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