Confidence is just one of those things that you either have, or don’t have – right? WRONG. Surely, you’ve heard of the classic phrase ‘fake it til’ you make it’, and when it comes to confidence that’s all you have to do.
Prepare to be as cool as a cucumber, because here are 6 simple steps that you can use to fake your confidence!
1. SIT UPRIGHT
It’s weird how something as little as your posture can even come into this, but it’s really significant in faking your confidence. Someone that sits in a slumped, untidy manner instantly gives out the impression that they’re ‘lazy’ and that they don’t care, so by sitting with your back straight, shoulders back – you will appear more lively, and as though you’re ready to get on with things.
I absolutely HATE smiling for no reason, but not only is smiling a sign of contentedness, it is also a big sign of confidence. Anyone sitting upright AND smiling is bound to look like they’re on top of their business! Also, smiling makes you appear more sociable – and most people that are openly social and outgoing with others, are confident within themselves.
3. EYE CONTACT
Looking into someone’s eyes when they’re talking to you can display insane amounts of confidence. Yes, it’s awkward, but by doing this you’re showing them that they’ve got your full attention AND since people are usually really thrown off eye contact – if you’re able to successfully hold it, then you’ve got the upper-hand in the battle of eyes.
4. SPEAK THOUGHTFULLY, ARTICULATE YOUR WORDS
You know when people say ‘think before you speak’? Well, you should certainly do that when you’re faking confidence. Take a short pause before you speak, and use this time to think of what you’re going to say. As well as this, drop some fancy vocabulary into your sentences, but not too much – nobody wants to have to dig out a dictionary. Avoid ‘um’s’ too, as it makes you sound as though you’re not 100% certain with what you’re talking about- and you are, because you’re ‘confident’!
5. DO THINGS THAT YOU ENJOY
Nobody looks more confident than someone doing something that they love doing. Whatever it is, writing, singing, dancing, drawing – just do it! When you’re doing these things, dopamines (your ‘feel-good’ neurotransmitters) are released throughout your brain and body; and remember before how I said that smiling can make you seem more confident? You’re going to be doing this whilst you’re doing what you love, so go,go,go and do what makes you most happy.
6. BE CLEAR WITH WHAT YOU WANT
Although it may feel more polite to somewhat ‘beat-around-the-bush’ and lightly brush upon what you really want, you’re going to come off as far more confident if you’re very clear and direct with what you want. Recognise what you do and don’t want, and act appropriately based upon this. Make. Your. OWN. Decisions.
Continue to follow these steps, and you won’t even need to faux no more – you WILL be confident!💋
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